Women of the Bible // Proverbs 31 Woman
Hey y’all! Today in
the Women of the Bible series we’re talking about the Proverbs 31 woman. I have always loved Proverbs 31 and have
admired this example for years. Of
course, Proverbs 31 isn’t necessarily describing a specific woman. Proverbs 31:1 tells us, “The words of king Lemuel, the prophect that his mother taught him.” King Lemuel’s mother was instructing her
son in this passage.
On a side note, I find it very interesting that King Lemuel’s actual identity is not certain. Many people have speculated that he was actually Solomon, which may very well have been the case, considering he is the writer of Proverbs. This leads to an even more intriguing prospect, which would be the fact that Bathsheba was the mother in this passage, who consequently is giving her son this wise instruction. That would conclude that Bathsheba may have been a virtuous woman herself, as we know very little about her outside of her and David’s sin. Although Bathsheba was not innocent, if you think about it, the story is focused almost entirely on David. There is very little we know about Bathsheba’s heart condition, and who knows? God may also have changed her heart later on. She could very well be the narrator of Proverbs 31!
Anyway, getting back to the main trail here…
Since my blog readership is almost entirely made up of single
young ladies, I’ve written this post with you all in mind. These are things you can work on now, even before you have a household to
provide meat for or a husband to safely trust in you. ;) The verses we’re specifically looking at
today are 10-28.
Ready for a fire hose?
Let’s go! :)
10 Who can find a
virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
Depending on color,
clarity, and cut, even a single carat ruby
can cost thousands of dollars. The
heart of a virtuous woman is priceless.
It far surpasses any earthly value.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so
that he shall have no need of spoil.
Are you
trustworthy? Perhaps you don’t have a
husband, but you probably have a father or some other close authority figure in
your life. Can they trust you? If those around you do not trust you, it’s
time to evaluate your heart and make some serious changes. Ask the Lord for His strength. When you have broken trust, building it back
up is difficult and tedious process, but it’s not impossible.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her
life.
There are many ways we
can ‘do good’ to our future husbands before we have met them. Do you pray for your future husband? Do you actively seek to guard your heart? Are you pure and appropriate in your
reactions with other young men? Do you
respect your father? Are you working
diligently to cultivate a virtuous heart?
13 She seeketh wool, and
flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
Even if you don’t seek
wool and flax, you can still work willingly with your hands! How are you at working willingly and joyfully
with your hands?
Not trying to weird
you out or anything, but for the record, I love hands. If you think about it, our hands are truly miraculous
creations. We use them daily to grasp
things, create, express ourselves, play instruments, and accomplish a myriad of
other tasks. We rely so much on our
hands, often taking them for granted.
Do you use your hands
for the benefit of others? Most
importantly, do you work willingly
with them?
14 She is like the
merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
If you are still in
your parents’ home, you may not have the responsibility of grocery shopping for
the family. However, it is very likely
that you will be the main shopper for your own family one day, so learn now. Even if the nearest grocery store is in
walking distance of your home, you may have to go extra mile (both figuratively
and literally speaking) to get the best food for your family.
My mom is a good
example of this verse. She does her main
shopping at Costco, but ever-so-often she makes the hour or so trip to a
bargain food place to stock up on certain items for a fraction of the cost.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat
to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
Are you willing to do
what it takes – even if that means getting up early – to do what needs to be
done? Getting up early for the sake of
others is a form of agape love. It takes
sacrifice! One day when you are married,
if marriage is the Lord’s will for you, your husband’s and kiddos’ days may
start early. Would you be willing to get
up early to prepare a healthy breakfast?
Even now, would you
get up early for the well-being of your family?
For some, this might look like rocking a sick baby at 5 in the morning,
packing a lunch for your brother because he missed his alarm, or going to
Starbucks to buy your mother a mocha before you leave for work. ;)
16 She considereth a
field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
Do you make thoughtful
and wise purchases that will bring long-term rewards? I’m sure it can seem like a lot of wasted
effort when you first plant a garden, but when you taste the literal fruits of
reward, it will be worth it. Use your
hands (verse 13!) to make practical and economical decisions.
17 She girdeth her loins
with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
I don’t know about
you, but working out is not something I particularly enjoy doing. I tease that the fittest parts of my body are
my fingers and right ankle because I play the piano so much (forgive the
grammatical oddness in this sentence). ;)
Trained strength is
not just a guy thing. The Proverbs 31
woman is not a wimp! She’s strong, both
mentally and physically.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her
candle goeth not out by night.
This woman makes good quality
stuff, and she knows it! She isn’t
prideful about it; she simply is realistic.
She stays up as late as she needs to accomplish her work.
Instead of tuning out
and settling for the TV, I would encourage you to make the most of your
evenings! Get stuff done. You may be starting to slump, but if you work
hard and make the most of your evenings, going to bed will be so much more of a
reward and you will sleep deeper.
Nighttime is often
when I get the strongest creative itch, and most of my blog content is created
in the evenings. It has been said that
some of the most famous composers have jumped out of bed in the middle of the
night to write down fleeting musical ideas!
19 She layeth her hands
to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
Again, we see this
example of a thrifty, hard-working, no-nonsense woman who worked with her hands
to create quality things.
20 She stretcheth out her
hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
Do you reach out to
those around you who may be less-fortunate, outcast, or needy? Maybe there’s a new girl at church or school,
a lonely elder lady in the nursing home, a young couple with limited funds who
needs a babysitter, or a neighbor in need of assistance. Search for these people, viewing them through
the Lord’s view. Reach out to them and
share the love of Jesus!
21 She is not afraid of
the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
Although we are commanded not to worry about tomorrow,
this does not mean we shouldn’t look forward and make wise preparations for the
future. It may be summer… but winter’s
coming! Are you prepared for the winters
of life?
22 She maketh herself
coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
In past times, silk
and purple signified wealth and royalty.
Both silk and purple dye were hard to come by, and the production of
these were labor-intensive. Now, the
Proverbs 31 woman isn’t necessarily rich or of royal decent. I think the reference to silk and purple in
this verse signify high-quality, durable material and a certain level of dignity
above all else. The Proverbs 31 woman
dressed nicely and with dignity.
It is said that
dressing nicely is a form of politeness.
Do you dress with dignity?
23 Her husband is known
in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
Oftentimes behind a
successful and wise man there is an invaluable woman. A virtuous wife can make a profound impact on
her husband through love, encouragement, wisdom, and example. A godly wife can be an anchor, of sorts.
One sweet thing my dad
has done for my mom for as long as I can remember is to refer to her as his “better-half.” He treats it almost as if it is her
name. This just goes to show that behind
the scenes, a virtuous helpmeet does a lot.
24 She maketh fine linen,
and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
The Proverbs 31 woman
creates such high-quality items that she sells them to the merchant. Can’t you just see her walking confidently up
to the merchant to offer her beautiful things?
She’s not afraid about how her merchandise measures up.
25 Strength and honour are
her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
The Proverbs 31 woman
knows the importance and necessity of strength and honor; they are likened here
to clothing. Just as she clothes herself
physically, she also clothes herself spiritually with these traits.
I love how several of
the other Bible versions say that she “laughs” concerning the future. Even though she doesn’t know what the future
holds, she knows who holds the future, and that’s enough for her.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue
is the law of kindness.
Ouch – we’ve arrived
at the verse concerning the tongue! As
we know from James 3, the tongue is not an easy member to control. It can be our greatest friend and worst foe. The Proverbs 31 woman understands the
importance and impact of kind words and wisdom, and she uses this gift
thoughtfully and with care.
How are you doing when
it comes to your tongue? I’m sure we all
have room for improvement! Let’s ask
Jesus for His help and seek to think before we speak, bite our tongues when unkindness
threatens to spill, and flee from gossip and anger.
27 She looketh well to
the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
This woman is anything
but lazy! She’s got a keen eye and is
busy serving others. She doesn’t leave
time for idleness.
Are you a productive person?
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her
husband also, and he praiseth her.
The Proverbs 31 woman’s
family knows her value. Do your family
members have reason to praise you? Do
your siblings respect you? If they don’t,
give them a reason to!
Additional
resource: Beautiful
in God’s Eyes by Elizabeth George.
If you made it all the way to the end, I applaud you! I hope this post was a blessing or challenge
to you some way today. <3
I loved this post, Grace! Wonderful job giving us practical advice and application for each part of Proverbs 31! I also found what you were sharing in the beginning to be very interesting :) Thank you for posting this!
ReplyDeleteI am glad the practical advice was helpful. I am a big fan of practicality. ;)
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